"Suck It Up and Knock It Off Now" Stuff Just Doesn't Work

I have a friend who really blew it with me when I made the mistake of letting down and telling her what I've been going through the past 9 mos. She listened wonderfully the first time around, but the second time (we live 3 hrs away), she jumped in with the "that's enough, now let's design some steps for you to take." What I needed from her was total, genuine acceptance, and the freedom to be my BPD me -- not calling my reactions "right", but for her to understand that these filters are a part of me that I cannot just cast off. The "suck it up and knock it off now" stuff just doesn't work with BPD, it just stuffs it back in the closet or under the rug. Boundaries? Yes-- to validate my pain, if not to agree with it as rational. You do not have the right to tell me that I "shouldn't feel this way", or that I'm "always discontent", like I choose to be this way! And don't deny me my right to exercise the initiative of reading between the lines. Yes, BPD people can and do read too much into things, but to rob me of *all* of my instincts and to suggest that I can *never* look for double meanings is to rob me of God-given radar. I would not argue the need to readjust the antenna tremendously, but don't try to cut it off; people are not always transparently honest and I can feel that.