When I'm Mad, Please Listen and Help Me

When I am very angry and not in danger of losing control, it is best for others to listen and help me explore my anger without judging. Echo my feelings... for example "it sounds like when this happens it sends you up the wall" or "help me understand what is going on right now..." that kind of thing. I guess it's basic therapeutic communication that is helpful. This doesn't work overnight. My feeling is until someone can formulate what is going on inside it isn't going anywhere... and talking is the best way. I know it sounds artificial but... it gets to be a natural and empathetic way to help someone.