Listen to Me When I'm Angry

I'm recovering, now, on medications that have quieted the internal noise and the inclination toward rage. As best I can remember, I could usually reconstruct an episode in which I was very angry, and the same rage was usually evoked. When I am angry, the best thing someone else can do to make me feel better is to LISTEN to me and BELIEVE what I am saying. I'm afraid that a good deal of current literature on BPD encourages others - family, etc.- basically to ignore what the borderline is saying because they don't know what the truth is, because they're manipulative, etc. Most of my anger has been caused by others not listening to me or believing me, and as the argument goes on, it is worsened by a continued lack of listening and belief. Those are very painful things to experience. They make you feel as though you just don't exist. The biggest thing that's happened in my life that has made such a change is that my husband now actually actively listens to me. He even seeks out such communication. That and having effective medication has made all the difference in my life.