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Going through a divorce or custody dispute with someone who has a high conflict personality (such as BPD or narcissistic personality disorder) can be a living nightmare that drags on for years. While people with these tendencies may initially appear convincing and even charming to lawyers and judges, you know better.

Many of these persuasive blamers leverage false accusations, attempt to manipulate others, launch verbal and physical attacks, and do everything they can to get their way. Splitting is your legal and psychological guide to safely navigating a high-conflict divorce from an unpredictable spouse. Written by Bill

Eddy, a family lawyer, therapist, and divorce mediator, and Randi Kreger, coauthor of the BPD classic Stop Walking on Eggshells, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

Turn to this guide to help you; predict what your spouse may do or say in court, take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking, choose a lawyer who understands your case, learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you.

Splitting covers essential topics like these:

• The importance of careful preparations before announcing the divorce
• Using an assertive approach, rather than a passive or aggressive one
• Working with experts and evaluators
• Avoiding short hearings on important issues
• Why laying low at the beginning and trying to fix bad decisions later is the wrong tactic.
• How to find the best attorney and work most effectively with him or her
• Alternatives to court and when they are or are not appropriate
• Deciding to settle or fight
• Gathering the right evidence
• What to expect from the opposing attorney
• Inflammatory letters and declarations
• What to expect at each stage of a hearing or trial
• Enforcing court orders
• Managing the post-divorce relationship

After 10 years as a divorce attorney representing people whose spouses appeared to have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders or traits, Eddy became an international speaker and trainer. He educates courtroom personnel and executives about the ways high conflict personalities may abuse the justice system.

If you had to buy Eddy’s time at his usual rate, this information could have cost you $50,000. People who have used this booklet say more than anything else, it has helped them stay sane and build their confidence that they were doing the right thing.