

About Randi
Randi Kreger has brought the concerns of people who have a family member with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) to an international forefront through her best-selling books, informative website, and popular online family support community Welcome to Oz.
Too Good to Leave; Too Bad to Stay
This is from D. V. Inverness, a woman with a partner who has both borderline and narcissistic tendencies.
My partner has BPD as well as strong narcissistic tendencies—he's very much in his own world, yet very emotionally sensitive-- mostly for himself, but also good-natured towards those in need. Sometimes I think the line between the two blurs, though he can be very arrogant and haughty. He is in therapy and knows and admits most (not all) of his issues, but it's a long road, and there are many hard places he has to dig into which turn into mine fields in terms of how he thinks and behaves towards me.
I am a writer and performance artist with a day job. I had never heard of personality disorders before I met my partner seven years ago. But since then, I have had non-stop lessons. With him in and out of therapy, it's been a roller coaster ride I never anticipated that has left a lot of collateral damage. I've been through counseling and have worked through the many aspects of how I got in this relationship and whether I should stay.
I have stayed, but have more than once had to break things off for my own emotional protection (not to mention physical protection when the stress of it has affected my health). It's the shrapnel flying in the process of someone grasping for identity that is hard to bear and I still regularly debate with myself whether I can continue. As the title of a book says, the relationship is "too good to leave, too bad to stay." And that's the dichotomy of living with hope.
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The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder
New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells
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The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook
Practical Strategies for Living with Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder
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Stop Walking on Eggshells
Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
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The ABC'S of BPD
The Basics of Borderline Personality Disorder for Beginners
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Splitting
Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
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The Splitting Companion CD
Conversations with William A. Eddy
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You're My World: The Custody CD
Featuring Ken Lewis and James Paul Shirley
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Love and Loathing
Protecting Your Mental Health When Your Partner has Borderline Personality Disorder
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Dealing with High-conflict People in Separation, Divorce, and Co-parenting CD Set
Presented by Bill Eddy with Megaln Hunter
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Dealing with High Conflict People in Divorce (Without Children) 4-disc CD set
Presenter: Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq.
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Hope for Parents
Helping Your Borderline Son or Daughter Without Sacrificing Your Family or Yourself