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Stop Walking on Eggshells:
Taking Your Life Back When Someone You
Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder
$15.95
By Randi Kreger and Paul Mason
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Item# 1-57224-108-x SWOE
250 pgs., softcover
1-57224-108-x
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Do you feel that anything you do or say will be
twisted against you? Are you being accused of things you never
did or said? Do you try to avoid horrible, confusing arguments
by concealing your thoughts and feelings? Are you at the end of
your rope?
We promise that our book, “Stop Walking On Eggshells:
Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline
Personality Disorder,” will help.
Those who have read it usually have two comments: “I
wish I had read this book years ago,” and “This
book is the only thing that has really helped my relationship
with this person.”
Table of Contents
SECTION ONE:
UNDERSTANDING BPD BEHAVIOR
Chapter 1:
Walking on Eggshells: Does Someone You Care About Have BPD?
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Thoughts, feelings, behaviors that indicate BPD |
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To tell or not to tell? |
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Know there is hope |
Chapter 2:
The Inner World of the Borderline: Defining BPD
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Understanding personality disorders; the DSM for BPD
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Additional traits common to BPD |
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Manipulation or desperation? |
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Myths and realities about BPD |
Chapter 3:
Making Sense Out of Chaos: Understanding BPD
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The geography of the “BPD world” |
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Why BPs act the way they do |
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How to spot and understand certain BPD behavior patterns
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Common BPD thinking |
Chapter 4:
Living In a Pressure Cooker: How BPD Behavior Affects Non-BPs
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Stages of non-BP grief |
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Common reactions to BPD behavior |
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Effects on the relationship |
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Figuring out what’s normal |
SECTION TWO:
TAKING BACK CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE
Chapter 5:
Making Changes Within Yourself
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What you can and can’t
do for the BP |
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Seeking support and validation
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Taking care of yourself
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Taking responsibility for your
own behavior |
Chapter 6:
Understanding Your Situation, Setting Boundaries, and Developing
Skills
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Tracking BP and non-BP triggers
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Understanding personal limits
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Determining your limits
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BPD-specific communication
skills |
Chapter 7:
Asserting Your Needs with Confidence and Clarity
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Stop absorbing and start deflecting
(be a mirror, not a sponge) |
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Learning more BPD-specific
communication skills |
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Discussing your personal limits
with the BP |
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Preparing for countermoves.
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Asking and persisting for change
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Chapter 8:
Developing a Safety Plan
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What to do about out-of-control
rages, physical abuse, self-mutilation, and |
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suicide threats |
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If you are suicidal |
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Out-of-control children
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Chapter 9:
Protecting Children from BPD Behavior
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Borderlines as parents
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Consequences of BPD behavior
on children |
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Nine practical suggestions
for protecting children |
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Divorce and parental alienation
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SECTION THREE:
RESOLVING SPECIAL NEEDS
Chapter 10:
Waiting for the Next Shoe to Drop: Your Borderline Child
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Can kids have BPD? |
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Effects on siblings |
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The four main tasks of parents
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Chapter 11:
Lies, Rumors, and Accusations: Combating Distortion Campaigns
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Why BPs may do this |
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Assessing your risk |
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Five practical ways to combat
distortion campaign |
Chapter 12:
What Now? Making Decisions About the Relationship
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Predictable stages you will
go through |
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What to do when children are
involved |
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Guidelines to decision making
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APPENDICES
A: Causes and Treatment of BPD
B: Tips for Non-BPs Who Have BPD
C: Coping Suggestions for Clinicians
D: Resources
References
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